How To Choose Gifts Based On Your Partner's Love Language

How To Choose Gifts For Your Partner According To Their Love Language - New Age Walls
Knowing your partner's preferred love language gifts can be incredibly helpful when it comes to finding the perfect gift for your partner. You're probably familiar with the concept of love languages, which were popularised in the bestselling self-help book The 5 Love Languages. Love languages are a way of describing how people express and experience love. For example, someone might feel most loved when you give them quality time or a thoughtful gift. Each person has their own unique set of preferred physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service and receiving gifts—and these preferences can change over time as we grow closer to our partners and learn more about what they really want from us.

Before you select a gift for your partner, you need to decide which of the 5 love languages you both belong to! 

The Meaning and Difference Between Gift Giving Love Languages

When it comes to choosing gifts for your partner, there's more than just the price tag and their tastes to consider. The way they feel loved is different from how you might feel loved.

If you're not familiar with the concept of love languages, they were developed by Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (1997). They explain how we each express our feelings of affection and appreciation in different ways and what those expressions mean to us.

To identify your partner's primary love language (and therefore their preferred way of being shown affection), ask yourself these questions:

  • What does my partner do when they want me to know that they care about me?
  • What kinds of things do they say when I'm upset or stressed out? Do these things make me feel better about myself as a person?

    Here are the 5 love languages! 

    Quality Time

    Quality time is a great gift for your partner because it's about giving them your undivided attention. It's about making them feel special and important, and can be done in many ways: going for a walk together, having dinner at home or just sitting down for a chat.

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    Receiving Gifts

    Receiving gifts is the most important love language for many people. The gift should be thoughtful and personal, something that your partner would like, not necessarily what you would like to receive. 

    When choosing a present for someone else in your life who has this as their primary love language--whether it's an anniversary present or just a birthday gift--keep these points in mind:

    • Think about what kinds of things would make them happy; don't just guess based on what looks good at first glance!
    • Make sure the gift is personal and something they can cherish for life
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        Physical Touch

        The amount of physical touch you have with your partner is a personal choice, but it's helpful to establish boundaries early on in the relationship. If you haven't talked about what you're comfortable with yet, now is the time.

        It's also important to consider what kind of physical touch works best for both of you: some people prefer more intimate forms such as cuddling or massages while others like dry kisses on the cheek when they get home from work. Make sure that whatever form it takes, it feels good for both parties involved!

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        Acts of Service

        To give a gift that shows you care, try an act of service. Acts of service are things you do for your partner to help them out and make their life easier. Here are some examples:

        • Cleaning up after they've been working late or studying hard
        • Cooking dinner when they're stressed out from work and school (or any other reason)
        • Caring for the pets while they travel or work away from home

          Other forms of 'Acts of Service' that you can gift your partner are:

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            Words of Affirmation

            Words of affirmation are a great way to show your partner that you care. You can use words of affirmation in many ways, such as when your partner does something for you or when they are simply being themselves. For example:

            • "I appreciate the fact that you worked so hard this week."
            • "I love how kind and caring you are."
            • "Thank you so much for taking me out on a date tonight!"

              Notecube - words of affirmation

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              If you're looking to give a gift to your partner, we hope this article has helped you understand the importance of choosing something that they will truly appreciate. It can be difficult to know exactly what someone wants or needs, but with these tips in mind, it should be much easier!

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